Meet Scrooge — Not the One in the Movie, the One Living in Your Patterns
You don’t have to be visited by three ghosts to realize something big:
Most women aren’t sabotaging because they’re afraid to fail.
They’re sabotaging because they’re terrified to expand.
Just like Scrooge, you’re not broken —
you’re patterned.
You’re conditioned.
You’re protecting something old.
You’re fighting for the familiar, not because it’s right…
but because your system believes it’s safe.
This is exactly what John Assaraf means when he says:
You don’t get what you want — you get what your subconscious is wired to expect.
And what Scrooge expected was misery.
So guess what?
He recreated it… every single day.
Sound familiar?
The Ghost of Christmas Past: Your Old Identity Still Running the Show
This ghost doesn’t float around in a cloak.
This ghost whispers:
- “Don’t shine too bright.”
• “Don’t get too far ahead.”
• “Don’t outgrow who they think you are.”
Dr. Amen would call this an old neural script —
a story your mind keeps recycling because it’s never been challenged.
You’re not avoiding success.
You’re avoiding the identity shift success requires.
Your past version has one job:
keep things predictable.
Predictable = familiar.
Familiar = safe.
Safe = the thing your system clings to
even when it’s suffocating your potential.
The Ghost of Christmas Present: The Overwhelm That Stops You in Your Tracks
Scrooge didn’t change because someone lectured him.
He changed when he finally saw the truth:
He was living disconnected, distracted, and out of alignment.
Sound like December?
Right now, your present-day ghost shows up as:
✔ procrastination
✔ clutter you suddenly care about
✔ the “I’ll start Monday” lie
✔ overwhelm disguised as busyness
✔ scrolling instead of starting
✔ freezing instead of flowing
Lets call this trapdoor thinking
where your mind drops you into a hole of hesitation the moment you try to act.
But here’s the truth:
You’re not unmotivated.
You’re overstimulated.
You’re not stuck.
You’re overloaded.
You’re not avoiding —
you’re protecting.
Your system hits pause because it needs clarity, not force.
The Ghost of Christmas Future: The Version of You That Scares You Into Playing Small
This ghost doesn’t show doom —
it shows possibility.
And THAT is what terrifies most people.
Your future self is:
clearer
more powerful
more visible
unbothered
aligned
unapologetically receiving
To step into her…
you have to step out of the patterns that kept you small.
Your future is determined by the thoughts you repeat, the habits you practice, and the identity you embody.
If you keep identifying with the old you, you’ll keep recreating her results.
Scrooge wasn’t haunted —
he was interrupted.
Interrupted long enough to see:
If you don’t change your patterns, your patterns decide your future.
So… How Do You Stop Scrooging Yourself?
Try this:
The “Future Self Awakening” Reset (High Impact in 60 Seconds)
Close your eyes.
Hand on heart.
Ask yourself:
“What would the future me do next?”
Not the tired you.
Not the overwhelmed you.
Not the scared you.
The future you.
The version of you who:
- knows her worth
• takes aligned action
• doesn’t negotiate with sabotage
• has emotional bandwidth
• trusts her timing
• finishes what she starts
Your future self ALWAYS knows the next move.
Let her answer.
That’s your path.
Holiday Reflection
Where am I choosing familiarity over expansion?
And what would my future self choose instead?
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